Hello readers! Back from my unannounced break—apologies for the “unannounced” hiatus. When my husband said he wanted a divorce… well I just had to really take a good look at a whole lot of self discovery. Decisions. Every door that closes opens a room full of rainbows.
I love people, I still love my husband, and I also agree that if a relationship is not nourishing it needs to change. Care for it, guard it, help it, like it, be interested in it… this is relationship nourishment. When you are not valued, good things you do are not acknowledged, the relationship will suck energy and not feed you. After a person does harmful things they cannot care for it; it moves into combat, ignore… if personal self-discipline does not make it go right, then it has to go.
My path of self-discovery opened an amazing door. Beyond nutrition, although that is important—let’s look at nourishment!
When I say that do you think “Food pyramid” ? or “nutrition labels” ?
We are fed not by food but by the energy in our lives. Modern nutrition – carbs, proteins, fruits, and veggies – our body burns these for fuel but they are only one source of nourishment.
In fact, truly, our primary food comes in four key areas: relationships, physical activity, career, and spirituality. Underneath these sits the food we choose to fuel these activities—they are linked of course, but proteins, fats, carbs, vitamins and minerals are secondary food. This is important.
Remember as a child, playing outside with your friends. Your mom calls “dinnertime!” “Time to come in and eat.” but you say “No mommy, I’m not hungry yet.”
Your mom, who believed her role is to enforce the rules of good nutrition; made sure you ate at least a minimally acceptable amount of food. She stood and shook her head as you rush out again to play. At the end of the day you’d return, exhausted, and go to sleep without thinking about food at all.
As children, we all lived on primary food. The same is true when you are deeply in love, or working passionately on a project. the fun, excitement, and love of daily life have the power to feed us so that food becomes secondary.
We hunger for play, fun, touch, romance, intimacy, love, achievement, success, art, music, self-expression, leadership, excitement, adventure, and spirituality. All these elements are essential forms of nourishment, and the extent to which we are able to incorporate them determines how enjoyable and worthwhile our lives feel.
On my new path, I’ll continue my nutritional counseling, of course, but we are all different and our life goals are all different.
I’m envisioning a life improvement center where all these areas: relationships, physical activity, career, and spirituality can be cared for; where we can come and get the tools to use to create the future we want: a future of our own creation and that nourishes ourselves, our families, our friends and every living thing on planet earth. And this is an exciting moment!
Stop back often – I’m hoping to contribute to your nourishing journey, or inspire you to start one.